1 Timothy 3:2-3-"Now a bishop must be above reproach, hospitable, an apt teacher, not a drunkard, not violent but gentle, not quarrelsome, and not a lover of money."
Anyone who proves violent is not eligible to be a bishop, a minister.

Ephesians 6:4-"And, fathers, do not provoke your children to anger, but bring them up in the discipline and instruction of the Lord."

1 Corinthians 3:1-5-"It is actually reported that there is sexual immorality among you, and of a kind that is not found even among pagans; for a man is living with his father's wife. And you are arrogant! Should you not rather have mourned, so that he who has done this would have been removed from among you?
"For though absent in body, I am present in spirit; and as if present I have already pronounced judgment in the name of the Lord Jesus on the man who has done such a thing. When you are assembled, and my spirit is present with the power of our Lord Jesus, you are to hand this man over to Satan for the destruction of the flesh, so that his spirit may be saved in the day of the Lord."

Colossions 3:19-"Husbands, love your wives and never treat them harshly."
Paul declared that women "ought to submit", yet he commanded husbands to love their wives and NEVER treat them harshly.

1 Peter 3:7-"Husbands, in the same way, show consideration for your wives in your life together, paying honor to the woman as the weaker sex, since they too are also heirs of the gracious gift of life--so that nothing may hinder your prayers."
The Greek work translated as "weaker sex" here is actually "vessel", a physical container. Husbands are specifically reminded to honor women in the context of them being weaker physically. If they do not honor their wives, their prayers will be hindered. In others words, a husband physically dishonoring a wife interferes with the husband's relationship to God.

Often Christians say, or at least believe, that women and children in this situation are somehow blessed to be suffering. The basis for this, often unspoken belief, is our call to emulate Christ's suffering. The Bible, however, emphasizes that Christ suffered for a purpose. His suffering was part of God's plan of Salvation. Jesus did not suffer for the purpose of suffering.

1 Peter 3:17-18-"For it is better to suffer for doing good, if suffering should be God's will, than to suffer for doing evil. For Christ also suffered for sins once and for all, the righteous for the unrighteous, in order to bring you to God. He was put to death in the flesh, but made alive in the spirit."
The suffering we accept MUST be contingent on "if suffering should be God's will". Like Christ we should only accept suffering if it achieves God's purpose. Thus Mother Teresa suffered in slums because God had a plan for her.

Both Peter and Paul talk about suffering and enduring--for God's purposes. Yet both rejected suffering that was not God ordained. Paul fled with the aid of Priscilla and Aquilla. Peter left the jail cell. Domestic abuse isn't God's will. Accepting domestic abuse will not encourage the abuser to turn to Christ. Remember abuse is a form of sin-lack of self control at the very least-and sin never draws anyone to Christ.

1 Thessalonians 4:3-6-"For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from fornication; that each one of you know how to control your own body in holiness and honor, not with lustful passion, like the Gentiles who do not know God; that no one wrong or exploit a brother or sister in this matter, because the Lord is the avenger in all these things, just as we have already told you beforehand and solemnly warned you.
God calls each of us to control our own bodies and our own desires. No one causes us to lose control. No one entices us. This means no man, woman or child can be responsible for being raped. In the account of Tamar's rape, Amnon is blamed for his actions--not Tamar.